Real Men
By Brett Gourdie
What’s ever happened to chivalry? Some say the woman’s movement abolished it; some would have us believe women want to be left alone to fend for themselves. I say no, the problem these days is just plain lack of common respect. My father, mother and their parents were taught to hold the door for a woman, as well as to respect and honor their wives. I have tried to instill this into my son’s life, and so far it’s worked. It’s always interesting to watch a 16 year-old young man hold the door for others in today’s day and age. While most people are appreciative and say thank you, some just walk thru and ignore him like he’s the local doorman. Others look at him as if he wanted something from them like some beggar on the street.
What has happened to this tradition of respect and honor in our current times? In an age where everyone wants instant gratification, and instant answers we’ve lost a sense of common courtesy. We’re worried whether or not someone saw our post on Facebook, or read our most recent Tweet. It’s to see and be seen instead of talking and really listening to the one we care about. When I say listen, I mean listen to every word before responding. This is as not as easy as it sounds but try it sometime, you’ll be amazed what you learn about your wife, girlfriend, friend or coworker.
If you have kids, start early by teaching them what your parents and grandparents taught you - to respect others. It’s a very simple process; passed down from generation to generation, don’t break the chain of tradition! Teach your son to respect women, teach you daughter to respect herself. They will thank you for it in the long run.
So we thought we’d throw out a few simple rules for real men to live by. Give them a try, trust me most good women find these simple tenets to be highly attractive in a man.
*Real men hold doors for a lady.
*Real men don't cheat.
*Real men don't lie.
*Real men stand up for what is right even if it’s not the popular thing to do.
*Real men show respect.
*Real men have emotions.
*Real men aren’t afraid to cook.
*A man who does not spend time with his family, partner, loved ones, can never be called a real man.
*Real men aren't players.
Remember nice guys are also real men, sometimes the person you least expect will actually be the biggest surprise you might find.
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